As youth workers, we are faced with difficult situations every day. Often, these situations require us to navigate unknown waters and advocate for students in times of crises. In an ideal world, these problems would be solved within the context of the family; however, there are many times that this cannot happen. Where else then do we go? One of the best places to go to is the student’s school, because there are many available resources there that are focused on benefiting the student academically, emotionally and socially. Collaboration between schools and youth ministries is easy to do and can greatly impact teenagers’ lives.

One evening at youth group, Lisa approached me with concerns about a friend in church. Lisa was worried because she thought her friend, Amber, was developing an eating disorder. After our discussion, I was left with a decision about the best way to handle this situation. I had several options at this point: My first instinct was to engage directly with Amber and her parents with a recommendation of counseling; or I could bring it to the attention of her school counselor, who would have access to more professional services and resources. Taking into consideration Lisa’s comments and concerns, and my personal understanding of the student’s family dynamics, I chose to contact the school counselor.

I met Lisa at school, whispered a quick prayer and walked into the administrative offices. I had been to this school several times, but I did not know any of the administration. We met with a counselor and Lisa was able to share her concerns about Amber. At the end of our meeting, the counselor promised to follow up with Amber, and I went back to the church. Later that day, I called and left two follow-up messages for the counselor regarding her conversation went with Amber and to offer further assistance. My phone calls were never returned. Realizing I was shut out of the situation, I modified my approach and contacted Amber’s family and learned she did receive the help she desperately needed, which was coordinated mainly through the school system.

A few months later, I had another situation come up with a different student at church. I became aware of some issues the student was having with a group of peers in school and brought it to the attention of the principal. His parents were called into the school, and a meeting was set with the student’s counselor and the principal. Having brought the situation to the attention of the school, I was invited by the parents and the principal to be a part of the discussion. I was able to be an advocate for the student and a support to the school personnel. In the end, the situation was resolved positively. One main difference between this situation and Amber and Lisa’s situation was that I personally knew several of the principals and counselors at the school where this student attended and was a welcomed and integral presence. So, how can we as youth directors get to know our school administration in order to be active within all areas of our students’ lives?