Many times when intergenerational youth ministry is considered, what we really are asking is, Where can I get some adults to run small groups, teach a particular class, etc?We need to make this as relatively easy as possible. Not everyone is cut out for teaching, though they can be trained. The teaching/mentoring/discipleship role is typically a paramount need. Here is what not to do.
Don’t advertise. Putting an ad on your Web site or in church bulletin is not the best idea. Instead, identify potential intergenerational volunteers. Pray for wisdom and discernment, and don’t go it alone. Lean on Holy Spirit guidance and spiritual advisors.
Here are my suggestions as to what kind of person to look for:
Gains rapport easily with teenagers
“Reads” personalities well
Sensitive to teenagers’ individual learning styles
Comfortable with his or her own age
Not easily agitated
Strives toward a leadership style of servanthood
Listens well
Fosters trust among teens
Able to forecast potential problems
Recognizes varying levels of spiritual development
Open to partnerships with other intergenerational leaders
Slow to judge
Spontaneous with a sense of humor (always a plus)
Accepts direction willingly
Confident when making suggestions
Thinks like a parent, even if not one
Demonstrates personal faith that is growing and transparent
I know you might be thinking, “In a perfect world…maybe.” This is an ambitious list. So, will you get the entire package in every potential leader? Probably not, but you need to see a combination of these characteristics.
For any deficiencies, spell out your expectations to volunteers. Most of the time misunderstandings within ministry relationships result from not knowing what your expectations are. Communicate expectations clearly. Utilize the available giftings and passions of your volunteers. Help them find ways to fill in the gaps.
This shopping list will go a long way in building a team of intergenerational leaders for your youth ministry.